Goals Through Grief
Because Moving Forward is a Way to Honor Love
Grief changes everything. It affects not only your heart, but your health, your dreams, your relationships, and the way you see the future. After losing my grandmother and my dad, I found myself asking: “How do I keep living when so much has changed?”
Some days my goals were as small as getting out of bed. Other days, they were as big as stepping onto a fitness stage, writing a book, or building something in honor of the people I love.
Through these seasons, I discovered something powerful: setting goals through grief isn’t about replacing what we lost — it’s about choosing life in the middle of it.
My Journey
📖 When my daughter Neeva struggled with speech, I wrote and self-published Santa Stutters Too. That children’s book was inspired by her journey and later led me to present on Shark Tank.
💪 After my dad’s death, I knew I could numb the pain with food and habits — or choose to get healthy. I chose health. I lost 20 pounds, built muscle, and competed in a transformational competition, rediscovering my strength along the way.
📦 In his memory, I also created The Visit Box, a grief tool that went on to win an Innovation Award from the International Cemetery, Cremation & Funeral Association. Later, I designed the Go, Not Gone Baton — a way to carry your goals forward in honor of those who are no longer here.
❤️ And through it all, I’ve worked on the goals that matter most: my marriage, my relationships, and the balance of choosing life each day, even when grief says to stop.
